The Adventure in Self-love

 The phrase "being in a relationship," is often mistaken for only romantic relationships, but on the contrary a relationship is a connection between two people and a variety of associations one person has with another.  no relationship can really give us everything that we want and that's why there are several types and kinds or relationships and looking at the kinds or relationships namely . 

1. Family

2.Romantic

3. Friendships

4. Professional

5. Causal

6.  Relationship with yourself

We will be focusing on RELATIONSHIP WITH YOURSELF as one of the most important kinds of relationship. Most people don't love themselves, but  they always want to show love to everyone in this world except themselves. You are the person that you spend most time with, so you need to learn to love yourself please. 

Haven said that Loving yourself comes down to actions: What do you do every minute of every day to prove to yourself that you’re lovable, deserving, and worthy? Let's briefly talk about how to practically and intentionally love ourselves.

1. Your Spirituaity is means everything

Generally spirituality is what gives life meaning. This is because as humans we are wired to be accountable to our Maker, you just notice that whenever your relationship with God is not given prior attention, it becomes difficult to love yourself no matter how you try. So this first thing first, be in a sound relationship with God.

2. Get to know yourself

Yes, you’ve been with yourself every second since the day you were born, but how well do you really know who you are? Do you know what you love, what makes you happy, and what you want out of life? It’s impossible to love yourself if you don’t know yourself, so take some time to think about what you believe in, value, and like, and identify your strengths.

3.  Forgive yourself

A common setback of self-love is holding onto things we’ve done in the past. Maybe it was an embarrassing moment that haunts you to this day or maybe it was a serious mistake that you’re still letting define you. Instead, look at how you’ve changed since those past mistakes or embarrassing moments. Realize how even the worst moments have made you stronger, kinder, and better. Bottom line: See yourself as a growing human being, not as a compilation of your past mistakes.

5. Treat yourself like you treat loved ones

The jmportant relationship in your life really is the one you have with yourself. So why don’t you nurture that relationship like you do with your best friend, mom, or significant other? Self-love might be as simple as loving yourself in your love language .Make a list of all the ways you treat the people you love: Check in with yourself regularly, it's ok to  look in the mirror and say “goodnight” before bed. At this juncture I will like to say " self love is so different from selfishness. Selfishness is not just wrong, it is bad and evil, so don't be selfish.

6. Plan your escape and say “no” when you need to

It’s not uncommon to feel drained when you’re constantly working to meet the needs of others especially when you’re a caregiver. But make sure you have time to recharge to have the energy and resources to be there for others.

As airlines like to remind us, it’s important to put on your own oxygen mask before helping others do the same. Because if you run out of air, it becomes a lot harder to help anyone including yourself.So you need space to refill. Infact consider pausing or shutting down your social media accounts temporarily or for good.You are accountable for yourself so Say “yes” when you mean yes and “no” when you mean no.

7. Care about nutrition

No matter what your current relationship with food is like, the food you eat should be an act of self-love. You know that old-school saying that you are what you eat? it is true: it’s about loving your body enough to nourish it with whatever makes it feel its best.After all, health is the best gift you could ever give to yourself.

8. Become more of “you”

We spend so much of our lives trying to be accepted, prove ourselves to other people, and blend-in. Many of us still have the mentality that if we’re loved by others, then we’ll love ourselves, so we try to fit in or seek acceptance. In reality, we can only love others to the degree at which we love ourselves.

9. Cry it out

Sometimes, we all just need to let our big emotions escape. It turns out, crying can even come with some benefits. To better regulate our emotions we need to let hurt out when it is necessary.

10. Plan a date

Treat yourself as though you are preparing to go out with a friend. Take yourself out, it is not a sin. You are that important, so at interval put on your favorite music, open your windows, and get your body moving.like dance, sing, laugh , be happy with yourself, you are all you've got.

After all problem did not start on your end and it will not finish on your head. The world is already full of harsh words so don't add  to it. Speak kindly to yourself, and don’t be nagative. You’ve come so far so Don’t forget to celebrate yourself often and  not only on your birthday! Even if you don’t feel particularly powerful, think about how far you’ve come, how you’ve survived. 

You’re here, right now, alive and powerful beyond your kowledge. So be thankful to God and Love yourself. BUT You actually have to be patient with yourself. Self-love may not happen overnight. But with time, it will settle itself into your heart. 

you may struggle, but you’ll look back on these moments and see how they were stepping stones on your journey to being the best you.Let no day pass without echoing  to yourself " oh my self I Just  want to remind you that you are powerful and adorable and I love you so much", and with this you will enjoy the ride on your selfship.